NO APOLOGY NECESSARY

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:32

Forgiveness is not for the person that wronged you. I‘ve said this to people many times and I believe it is true.

It’s really for you.

Unforgiveness binds us. It’s like being chained to a person or situation that caused a pain so unbearable we can’t let it go. And yet to hold onto it also causes an unbearable pain that we impose on ourselves, not intentionally of course.

Letting go is not that easy but, it is necessary.

Forgiving doesn’t mean you’re obligated to forget or reconcile. Impactful memories good and bad don’t just go away but over time the ones that hurt don’t hurt as much. Wisdom gives you permission to acknowledge the offense. But to prevent it from happening again, put a little distance between yourself and that person.

The hardest person to forgive is yourself. Why is it that same grace we so freely give to others, we have trouble giving to ourselves? I can only speak for myself, but I’d rather hurt then hurt someone else. That’s not fair and no longer acceptable. Yep, I’m growing through what I go through.

Whether I ever receive an apology or not, I forgive because I am forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift. God is breaking every chain and I’m releasing every hold binding me. So to whom this may concern, I forgive you and please forgive me.

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”—Paul Boose